First things first, I named this blog ‘WHY’ because I have a hell lot of questions to ask. Starting from objectification of the female body to shaming it. Really, people have nothing in between or what? Haters will say that ‘item songs’ are an integral part of Bollywood movies, or that attaining a ‘so called’ body (read: with fuller assets but a flat belly) is nothing but healthy. Okay, okay. Think of me as a feminazi. Well, I don’t give a damn to what your perception of me is. Because I know what I am, my brain knows not to quit, but I think that a woman is just trying to be the best version of what she is.
Coming to the point, one of my friends received a really lewd message from an acquaintance, needless to say that the sender was a male. And then he tried covering it by saying ‘Sent it to you by mistake. The message was meant for someone else.’ As if another girl would’ve digested it?
Why is it that women have to conform to social standards and it doesn’t matter if a man doesn’t? Why do women have to be fully covered despite the weather? Why do women have to act coy and shy all the time? Why can’t some people allow women to work post marriage/child birth? Why do women have to remedy their skin to ‘gori’ from ‘kali’? Isn’t Kali the name of a much worshipped Hindu Goddess? Why do women have to constantly seek empowerment? Why can’t Bollywood actresses own that they are feminists? Why do women have to stand up and speak for other women? Why don’t men become feminists? Why don’t people understand that we want equality and not superiority? Why are rape victims’ images deteriorated instead of rapists’? Why do women have to worry about being attacked once they’ve stood up and taken appropriate measures against the accused?
There’s no end to my questions. Only if men take a step forward and support women, we can actually achieve equality- something that women are dreaming of. It is the 21st century and if we still can’t keep women over patriarchy, it is nothing but depressing.
P.S. – Actions were taken against that guy. Not strict ones though, but still THEY WERE TAKEN. That matters.